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Finding Life Purpose

This is a post written by one of the very few blogs I follow….. in fact the blog inspired me to create a life that is filled with the ‘present’.


How to Find Your Life Purpose: An Unconventional Approach

By Leo Babauta

Let’s say you’re feeling unmotivated, unsure of yourself, aimless, can’t find your passion, directionless, not clear on what your purpose in life is.

You’re in good company — most people are in the same boat.

Now, there about a million things online telling you how to find your passion in life, and that’s a good thing. It’s a search worth undergoing.

I’m not going to give you a fool-proof method, or a 5-step method, nor share my passion manifesto with you today.

I’m going to give you a one-step method.

However, that one step is a doozy.

The One Step to Finding Your Purpose

It’s simply this: learn to get outside your personal bubble.

Your personal bubble is the small world you live in (we all have one), where you are the center of the universe. You are concerned with your wellbeing, with not wanting to look bad, with succeeding in life, with your personal pleasure (good food, good music, good sex, etc.).

This is the bubble we all live in most of the time, and people who say they don’t are trying to prove something.

When someone tells you you look fat, this only hurts because you’re in your personal bubble. You take that statement (a colleague who says you look fat) and believe that it’s about you, and feel the pain or embarrassment of how the statement affects you. It matters a lot, because in your bubble, what matters most is how everything affects you personally.

I’m the same way, and so is everyone else.

Some other problems caused by this personal bubble:

  • In our bubble, we’re concerned with our pleasure and comfort, and try not to be uncomfortable. This is why we don’t exercise, why we don’t only eat healthy food.
  • This fear of being uncomfortable is also why we get anxious at the thought of meeting strangers. It hampers our social lives, our love lives.
  • Because we don’t want to look bad, we are afraid of failing. So we don’t tackle tough things.
  • We procrastinate because of this fear of failing, this fear of discomfort.
  • When someone does or says something, we relate that event with how it affect us, and this can cause anger or pain or irritation.
  • We expect people to try to give us what we want, and when they don’t, we get frustrated or angry.

Actually, pretty much all our problems are caused by this bubble.

Including the difficulty in finding our life purpose. But more on that in a minute — I ask for your patience here, because this is important.

What Happens When We Get Out of the Bubble

If we can learn to get outside this personal bubble, and see things from a less self-centered approach, we can see some amazing things:

  • When someone says or does something, it’s not really about us — it’s about pain or fear or confusion they’re feeling, or a desire they have. Not us.
  • When we have an urge for temporary pleasure (TV, social media, junk food, porn), we can see that this urge is a simple passing physical sensation, and not the center of the universe.
  • We can start to see that our personal desires are actually pretty trivial, and that there’s more to life than trying to meet our pleasures and shy from our discomfort. There’s more than our little fears. Including: the pain and suffering of other people, and compassion for them. Compassion for all living beings. Wanting to make the world better.
  • We can tie our daily actions, like learning about how our minds and bodies and habits work, or getting healthy, or creating something, not only to our personal satisfaction and success (trivial things) but to how they help others, how they make the lives of others better, how they might lessen the suffering of others.

We become less self-centered, and begin to have a wider view. Everything changes, from letting go of fear and anger and procrastination, to changing our habits and finding work that matters.

How does this relate to finding our life purpose? Let’s explore that.

The Wider View, and Our Life Purpose

Once we get out of the bubble, and see things with a wider view, we can start a journey along a path like this:

  1. We can start to see the needs of others, and feel for their suffering.
  2. We then work to make their lives better, and lessen their suffering.
  3. Even if we aren’t good at that, we can learn skills that help us to be better at it. It’s the intention that matters.
  4. As we go about our daily work, we can tie our actions to this greater purpose. Learning to program or become healthy (for example) isn’t just for our betterment, but for the betterment of others, even in a small way. This gives us motivation on a moment-to-moment basis. When we lose motivation, we need to get back out of our bubble, shed our concern for our discomfort and fears, and tie ourselves to a bigger purpose.

In this path, it doesn’t matter what specific actions you take or skills you learn to make people’s lives better. What career you choose is not important — what matters is the bigger purpose. You can always change your career and learn new skills later, as you learn other ways to fulfill this purpose. You’ll learn over time.

What matters is becoming bigger than yourself. Once you do, you learn that you have a purpose in life.

How to Get Out of the Bubble

Sounds great, but getting outside this personal bubble isn’t as easy as just saying, “Let it be so.” It takes work.

First, you must see when you’re stuck in the bubble. Whenever you’re angry, frustrated, irritated, fearful, anxious, procrastinating, feeling hurt, wishing people would be different … you’re in the bubble. These are signs. You are at the center of your universe, and everything is relating to you and your feelings. When you can’t stick to habits, or have a hard time with a diet, you’re in the bubble. Your momentary pleasure is what matters in this bubble. Outside the bubble, they’re just little events (sensations of desire, urges) that can be let go of.

Second, when you notice that you’re in the bubble, expand your mind and heart. See the bigger picture. Feel what others must be feeling. Try to understand rather than condemning. See how little and petty your concerns and fears have been. Realize that if others treat you badly, it’s not about you, but about their suffering.

Third, wish others well. Genuinely want their happiness, just as you want your own happiness. See their suffering and wish for it to end or lessen.

Fourth, see how you can help. How can you lessen the suffering of others? Sometimes it’s just by paying attention, just listening. Other times you just need to be there, just lend a hand. You don’t need to go around solving everyone’s problems — they probably don’t want that. Just be there for them. And see if you can make people’s lives better — create something to make them smile. Make one little part of their world — a cup of tea, an article of clothing you’ve sewn — be a little space of goodness.

Repeat this process multiple times a day, and you’ll get better at it.

You’ll learn to be bigger than yourself. You’ll learn that the life we’ve been given is a gift, and we must make the most of it, and not waste a second. You’ll learn that there is nothing more fulfilling than making the lives of others a little better.



Why are you still sleeping?

Why are you still sleeping?

It is now 6:35am and I am sitting on the covered patio of our luxury ‘bush hut’ overlooking the hippo pools and the african bush landscape.

There is no-one around that I can see and the rest of the household is sleeping – but how can you sleep when there is so much life in front of us to be seen, heard, smelt and experienced!


The sun is just coming over the horizon and a number of birds are calling. A small group of Warthogs scamper past – their tails in the air like aerials. A crested barbet lands right in front of me and sings (I have the video) 

In the far distance a group of buck can be seen as they undertake their morning feed.

4 Rhino walk past in front of the impala – they look like rocks with horns.

The air feels fresh – probably 6 or 7 degrees outside with the expected peak at 25 today.

The smells are typical of the african bush – the dust, flowers, veld and the aroma of my morning coffee.


This is wonderful – this is Africa…


A thin electric fence separates us from the wildlife reserve in front of me. Bakubung (the place of the hippo) is home to the big 5 and the chance of elephants and other animals being 20 metres in front of our chalet is very high..

Imagine if they were all there in front of me now – and I was sleeping?


Again – why are you still sleeping?

Time has marched on a good 20 minutes since I started this blog and still the camp sleeps. Perhaps I didnt drink as much wine or watch to the end of the opening of the Olympics ceremony (I got tired after the 6th crossing of “MAX Power boat” under the london bridge) so hence I am up earlier than others. However, I always like to get up early.

Much like the sensations of sight, sound and feelings in the bush  – you can only really appreciate life by by:

  1. Being there
  2. Being present (refer to #1)
  3. Being awake (refer to #1)


I am not against sleep

Please dont get me wrong – I love my sleep – love the feeling of the pillow under my head and the feeling of crisp sheets or warm duvets and settling down for the night.

I have a routine and fall asleep in seconds, dream wonderfully, and approx 6 hours later – my body clock wakens me naturally. I know that I could roll over and try to get back to sleep but in essence – I am awake and choose to experience more.

Especially when I am away out of routine – how many more mornings will I get this amazing landscape in front of me?

Today could be my last day…..

Or even, how long will there still be rhino to see?


This reconfirms my mantra…

Live each day and extract all the juice of experience out of each one!


A Franklin has just walked up to my table and greeted me.

If I was sleeping I would not be able to answer….


Good morning world!


Clearing the clutter from your life

Whilst watching a TV program the other day about a family living in Africa, I was tempted to automatically put on my cynical and Western eyes onto the poverty and lack of anything that they seemed to have.

Food was scarce, water was precious and had to be fetched in a container daily from over 2 km’s away. “Shame..” I thought. But I did notice one thing that kept me thinking about who has the issue… Continue reading Clearing the clutter from your life

Mind: Write! Write! Write!!

The power of the written word….

Blog about yourself, your passions, your hobby.

Its easy, quick and can open many doors.

I have used a few technologies but currently use wordpress to do this.

If you want to get more site options and own a web domain name you can get a simple GoDaddy hosting account for WordPress for under $100 per year.

Write your thoughts, share your travels and who knows… you may even get others who follow you…

Life: Detoxed

Life is meant to be joyful, easy and full of experiences.. but we surround ourselves with barriers (what did you think when you looked at the picture ?)

We carry preconceptions of whats right and wrong, opinions and beliefs that cloud our minds. We eat too much or cycle through good and bad ( and what is bad?)  that affects our health – our body. We allow doubt and loneliness and sadness into our lives that affect our spirit.

The word detoxify – normally is associated with food and it is a pattern we sometimes follow to ‘Restart ourselves’. A true refresh is one that works on more than just the body – but also your mind and spirit.

Detox your Mind: 

  • Clear the doing clutter from your life, get organised – physically and mentally.
  • Get rid of bad habits, stop heavy thinking, have good thoughts and be clear
  • Be truthful to yourself and find clarity

Detox your Body: 

  • Clear the eating clutter from your life, get organised – physically and mentally.
  • Get rid of bad habits, stop heavy eating/drinking, have good nourishment and be clear about the body you want
  • Be truthful to yourself and find Health

Detox your Spirit: 

  • Clear the clutter from your life, get purposeful and connected.
  • Get rid of bad habits, stop feeling down or disconnected, instead get connected, rested and be clear about who you really are.
  • Be truthful to yourself and find Purpose

Who is the site for?

Anyone who feels slightly dissatisfied with where they are in life, maybe weight or health issues, maybe money or motivation, or even just dis-organised…

There are a myriad of self help books and site out in this wonderful world of information and I am sure that this is another one of them – but I aim to be different.


By being just like you…..  I also struggle with things and am not always doing stuff right….

but here is the kicker –

I have spent my whole life working on so many methods – including psychology, NLP, Hypnosis, corporate tactics, Toastmasters, volunteering, religion, meditation, yoga, dance, hedonism, vegetarianism, parenthood, travel and lets not forget the good old fashioned ‘give it a go’ method

What have I learnt?

That there is not one ‘super method’  – it takes a combination of some simple techniques and an open mind – all gleaned from all the methods.

I am getting it right and now is the time to consolidate all I have learnt….

So what can you expect?

The ideas of where this can go are immense! Some of the titles include:

  • Detox your life program (Living Health) – 10 day challenge to reset your body, mind and habits to be healthy, eat well and lose what needs to be lost
  • Step-up: Into sports or simply competitive by nature ? change your mind and step up your game
  • Getting organised with stuff in the inbox: How to file and work with the mountain of stuff that comes up at us each day
  • Being Present: We all want things and look outside for things that matter – we sometimes need to notice whats already there
  • Habit change: Ridding yourself of annoying and sometimes damaging habits that no longer serve.
  • Where to start?: A morning routine to set you on fire for the day and ensure stuff gets done..

Who am I ? 

I was about to note how under-qualified I am to be writing this – but I will let you be the judge. Check out my bio or even just read on…

What I expect from you

Apply the learnings…

Give yourself  (and me) – open and honest feedback, communication and support where needed.

Take from this what works and give back what doesn’t.

Challenge yourself to change

Hold yourself to a higher standard – step up and live a life worth calling it a life.